crazylegsmurphy wrote:You know what the hardest thing about being an Atheist / Person of reason?
Oh sure, I know people that think like me are out there...I mean, look at the numbers at the Reason Rally...but in day to day life, it's like trying to get photos of an elusive snow leopard. Sure, you can set up your camera and wait, and wait, and wait, but in the end you just get a SD card full of sheep photos.
Anyway, not much point other than I just wanted to kinda vent.
crazylegsmurphy wrote:Wouldn't that be amazing if it were just that simple?
I would give anything if the people around me didn't give a damn about my religious beliefs or lack there of. It would be amazing to have conversations with people that didn't result in them distancing themselves later on. Imagine a world where you could actually be yourself and not have to feel nervous about what others may think.
crazylegsmurphy wrote:I do live my life...in fact I live most of it alone. I recently attended a lecture by Lawrence Krauss, visited the science centre, and the dinosaur museum. I did it alone because no one I know is interested in those things.
crazylegsmurphy wrote:So I guess you're correct, If I forget about being who I am, and just nod and smile, I can have a whole bunch of people around me.
Is it really like that where you live?
This I don't understand. No one goes around thinking about who they are. I don't. I'm the way I am, so what? The way I am dictates how I live my life, no?
Keep The Reason wrote:Are you in Canada? If so, whereabouts? If not, where are you?
Also, if you went to a Lawrence Krause lecture, was it close enough for you to link up with other attendees?
I was a social misfit for a long time; no friends, no comfortable in social situations. I decided be day to stop caring if others didn't like me or m views, and instead Just went out and started to converse and interact with others. I'm in Los Angeles so it's probably easier bringing an urban center, but it did work out well.
Ever consider moving? Probably not the easiest thing to do, bu I found stand living on Long Island after awhile and had to escape. First manhattan, then a few ther paces but eventually LA.
In the US, we get the added bonus of living in a bizarre, fact-free reality fabricated by uber-conservatives. If you've ever seen the original Stepford Wives, it often feels like that small, warped little town. It isn't unusual to be ridiculed for stating objective, easily-verifiable facts, because the facts contradict what "everyone knows," which usually is the bovine excrement spread by Fox News and talk radio. My country is overrun by insanity.
I don't know what will work for you, but I've given up on having a lot of friends who share my interests and think like I do. Over time, I've made friends who share one interest or another, or one viewpoint or another. I also use my sense of humor a lot, accepting the role as the "odd" friend that everyone (hopefully) likes despite his quirky ideas. And, of course, I'm slowly brainwashing them to my point of view.
It is similar when your theistic orientation does not fit with the prevailing culture. Although it may be inconvenient and disruptive to other parts of your life, you may find your sense of belonging is better served actually living IN (instead of semi-near) a city like Calgary, Vancouver, or (I guess) Victoria. (Personally, I wouldn't move in with parents, who would treat me as if I were 40 years younger than the calendar indicates I am.)
Also, you could try hosting a Meet-Up yourself. I still have to travel an hour to get to the closest humanist or freethought meet-ups, but they're enjoyable and offer some emotional relief. And we meet in coffeehouses or libraries, not pubs. If you're the organizer, you get to pick the venue.
(BTW, I just checked and there are already atheist meet-ups Drumheller and Red Deer, AB. Perhaps one of them is closer.)
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