Thanks Moonwood, that was interesting. At the very least it has helped me to be more self aware, I was on a trip this weekend and I was more aware of how I reacted to things.
All this though has brought up an interesting question in my mind. I agree with you that it is better to fit models to the empirical data rather than the empirical data to models. However, this is limited in an interesting way for humans, for we might certainly be able to come up with a model which is very descriptively accurate, but it focuses only on how I operate, it does ask questions about how I should act and that I think is of much greater interest for the human being who is living their life. Yes, it is good and helpful to understand oneself, but it is something else entirely to think about how I want to act.
"I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else" - C.S. Lewis