Rian wrote:(but seriously, seriously, you can't admit it's a cheap shot?, and that maybe you were wrong to have said it, especially to Moonwood? An answer not looking like what you want it to look like is NOT refusing to answer.)
No I don't consider it a "cheap shot" to assess you weren't going to answer it. I'm not lying to you or trying to one-up you -- it was my honest appraisal, nothing more. And since you still haven't answered it -- I'm going to hold to it. I'm not saying that in any negative way, and when I said "fair enough?" I meant it as "fair enough". As long as you don't answer it, I'll consider it a refusal to answer it. It's not meant to insult, humiliate or anything else-- and you don't even have to care about it one way or the other, but I can't help it if you do. When you do answer it, I'll change my position. It's nothing more than that, and it's certianly not meant to be so diabolical.
A separate branch is this "I'm not going to reward bad behavior" or "I am going to teach X lesson" stuff.
I am not trying to help you "Stop doing it" -- I only shine a light on it so others can see it and recognize tactics you
may adopt (the "you" can be anybody -- not just you personally). You do such things to me as well, and I'll bet we both share a blindspot in terms of our "tactics". I consider a lot of this entire exchange to be talking past one another, and I think we both have the same crazy degree of "morbid curiosity" to see how far the other is willing to go (maybe we're both more alike than we care to admit).
And finally, I'm not trying to make it into an ouch contest-- I don't disagree we point out each others' faults-- I admitted that awhile back. But I am not about trying to "help you" out of it. It's not my place or my goal.