NH Baritone wrote:I know better than to take this literally...
. It was a follow on thought from the previous paragraph where I state that societal laws are actually creating problems for straight people by imposing religious views on gay people - and that I think I'd favour the other extreme in preference to the current/recent anti gay laws. It appears you got that out of what I wrote.
NH Baritone wrote:Awareness of sexual orientation is an emerging process, and indeed, sexual orientation does not necessarily resolve itself in a a black-or-white fashion.
I gotta say, I don't get this. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say I can't relate to it (just like I can't relate to vandalism. I went through a rebellious stage, and not once did I have the urge to destroy or damage a stranger's property). I know that my sexual orientation was exceedingly clear to me by the time I was about 15. This was about the time I first got to see nekkid men and women in magazines (from the local newsagent's skip bin - yes, boys and girls, this was in the days before the interwebz). A naked bloke has never been a turn-on for me. A naked chick on the other hand, unless she was like 22 stone or generally hideous, has never failed to... well, you get the idea. Wet dreams? Women. Fantasies? Women. So, whilst I intellectually understand that bisexual people exist, I can't relate to them. As such, they bother me a bit (in the same way that vandals do). It'd be like being at a game of footy and there's the bisexual person cheering when either side kicks a goal. It just ain't right
[NOTE: I can relate to gay people, because I have no trouble understanding that, for instance, a gay male is just as attracted to another male as I am to a female - or that a gay female is just as attracted to another female as I am. In this sense, putting myself in their shoes, is straightforward.]
NH Baritone wrote:In a society with a strong heterosexual bias, children grow into adults believing that they, of course, should be straight. Variations from that cultural expectation are extremely scary, and sheer terror causes both men & women to deny gay or bi feelings and to try to cultivate heterosexual feelings that either don't exist or exist only minimally.
So the upshot is that many people can't bring themselves to admit that they're gay until later in life. It falls well within the norm for people to remain in denial about their own sexuality well into their 20s or 30s. Indeed, I've known guys who didn't come out until they were in their 60s.
Mmmm, but I see these people as not so much being confused, but rather repressed. Eventually, it's the living a lie that becomes too much for them. In fact, if they were bisexual (and I'm talkin' 50/50 tendencies here), then surely their ability to experience a more fulfilling relationship by changing partners to one of the same sex, isn't going to improve any.
NH Baritone wrote:I recommend that everyone leave the laws about this off the books...
In case there's any doubt, I do agree with this
NH Baritone wrote:...and instead educate everyone that sexuality is a multi-colored experience so that people are encouraged to understand themselves as early as possible.
...which in my head still translates to, pick a side FFS!
I'm not being argumentative here, NHB. I'm just explaining where I'm at and how I see things.