humanguy wrote: Kestrel wrote:
humanguy wrote:If fear is what makes the second belief flawed, what is the first belief based upon that makes it not flawed?
I very much doubt that we'd be able to find two people who agree on what love means. I don't know what it means.
What's your definition of love?
Aaron rightly notes Paul's declaration of what loves actions are.
This threads discussion witness' the difference and confusion between carnal love and spiritual love.Marriage jokes aside,
I would deem it past exceedingly rare,the spouse that feels unrestrained joy at the news their partner has found someone else that makes them happy.
In that situation the carnal love feels slighted by the ego we all share.
From, "How can you do this to me?" to "After all I've done for you." to "You told me you would always love me." "I'll fu#@*ing kill you!' Me, I me, me, I.
Even if one is the type to quietly let the person go with, "If that's what you want, then I won't keep you." The very real feeling of pain, betrayal and/or confusion, that the one left behind experiences is the product of carnal love.
Love in the spiritual sense removes, "ME" completely. There is no place for it. Instead the spouse being left would feel genuine joy that the other has found happiness and never even feels the slightest pang of loss.
There is currently another thread which asks if love equals sacrifice.
Carnally, sure it can.
Spiritually it cannot. Spiritual love feels no loss and accounts no cost at all.
The difference between fear and love.
For the believer;1Jn 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. (NKJV)